A Mother's Thoughts on her Daughter Having Admirers

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A couple of  months ago, I was surprised with a "love letter" that my daughter brought home when she came from school.  This came from her secret admirer which she had found lying on top of her trolley bag.  It didn't say who the letter was from (the sender's real name) because the letter sender/secret admirer said that he was afraid to loose my daughter's friendship if she knew who he was (parang telenovela lang!), but we  have an idea who her secret admirer is because of the text messages I always receive from one of my daughter's school mate (who I personally know).  Well, the messages are just simple, like "How are you?" and "Please reply."  I'd jokingly tease my daughter about it, but she doesn't pay that much attention since they are both friends since the 2nd grade and she's not really interested with the crush thingy.  Well, she does have a crush in school and in showbiz (she likes Robert Pattinson) which she openly tells me about, but  she doesn't give much deal about it.  She just tries enjoy the company of all her friends, all the guys who have a crush on her, and focuses on her studies.  Yes, you can say that my daughter is a "crush ng bayan" in her school.

We shared this with my husband, but I guess dad's take things like this differently.  Well, he didn't get mad but you could see a hint of being uncomfortable to the fact that his daughter is now growing up to be a lady and with his daughter starting to get admirers.  He even told my mother-in-law like it was a big deal.  Well, there's nothing wrong with telling my in-laws but, I mean, come on, it's not like our daughter would soon jump into a relationship or something.  But I guess my husband was just feeling the same thing that I was feeling at that moment.  I didn't feel bad about it - in fact, I'm proud of it.  I'm proud that there are people who admire my daughter.  For me, that's a reflection of how people appreciate how we've brought her up.  There was just a flash of sadness that crossed my mind knowing that my daughter's no longer a baby, and her growing up is something that I could never control.  I think parents, especially moms, are naturally like this - that if we can, we'd like to hold on to our children for as long as we can and have them as our baby forever.  Oh, and yes, this means that I'm also slowly aging (arggh!), so that was a part of the reason why I was a bit sad about it (Lol!).

But I'm not worried about anything at all.  I'm okay with these crushes because it's really a part of growing up.  I just have to make sure that I'm here to guide them throughout their growing years and be their true friend.  As long as I keep the communication lines always open between my children and I and guide them through the right path with the help of God's word and with a touch of motherly love at all times, I'm certain that my children will know which way to go.